Starting the infant adoption journey on the ‘same page’ as your spouse can be challenging. Then, as you go through the process to adopt, you may see how the ups and downs can affect your marriage. Kimberly Holmes is a marriage expert and she’s here to talk about how to strengthen your marriage before, during, and after you adopt.
Learning how to prioritize your marriage relationship is critical when you are going through the infant adoption process. I’d say, especially after talking with Kimberly, that it is important to do this BEFORE you start the process.
“Adoption is beautiful and it definitely has its hard moments. Just like marriage. Marriage is beautiful. It is amazing. It is the best, most intimate relationship that we can have with someone in our lives, but it is hard and it takes work. You have to really prioritize that marriage relationship.”
–Kimberly Holmes, Marriage Expert and CEO of MarriageHelper.com
After my wife and I have gone through three infant adoptions, I can truthfully say that it takes work and dedication to make sure your marriage stays strong through the roller coaster ride of adopting children. After so many years of wanting to become parents, it is easy to put all of our focus and energy into our kids.
We should put a TON of time and energy into raising our kids, but we cannot lose the importance of strengthening our marriage as well. We’ve learned how much we need date nights and those quality moments of putting the cell phones down so we can have meaningful conversations.
You’ll love this conversation as Kimberly and I dive into the how and why of strengthening your marriage before, during, and after you adopt.
What you’ll hear on this episode:
- How Kimberly and her husband adopted their children.
- Why it is OK and is actually healthy if you and your spouse don’t agree 100% on everything.
- How and why you should work on strengthening your marriage before, during and especially after you adopt.
- What specifically you should watch out for and discuss during the adoption process.
- Some of the best ways to communicate with your spouse if they aren’t completely onboard with adopting.
- How to find ways to prioritize your marriage to make it stronger while adopting.
- How you can get help directly from Kimberly and her team at MarriageHelper.com.
Links we talk about in this episode:
- MarriageHelper.com – provides a researched based program that thousands of couples have used to strengthen and even save their marriages.
- MarriageHelper on YouTube – great videos from Kimberly and others on marriage.
- It Starts With Attraction Podcast – listen to Kimberly’s podcast about revealing how to become the most attractive you can be Physically, Intellectually, Emotionally and Spiritually (or as us insiders call it…the PIES).
- FindMyAdoptionAgency.com – a community bringing together expectant moms and hopeful adoptive families by connecting them through online profiles.
- IAG Adoption Support Group – our Facebook group is only for hopeful adoptive families or those who have already adopted. Come join the 2,000+ people in this amazing (and private) group to get support, get answers to your questions and learn from others who are on the same journey as you.
- Get my FREE GUIDE: How To Find The RIGHT Adoption Agency in 4 Steps. If you’re new to adoption, have no idea how to find an adoption agency, OR have struggled in your research to find the BEST agency – this FREE guide will help. It walks you through where to find infant adoption agencies, how to evaluate them and then how to choose the right one for you!
