Fertility can be something that a lot of people take for granted. My wife and I assumed that as a healthy married couple it should have been easy to begin “planning” our family.
From our perspective we were supposed to get pregnant and have a baby 9 months later, then start planning for the next few children – always keeping in mind that it was all up to God. He was to decide how many children there would be and when they would come.
Reality hit in the form of a miscarriage and then we were not able to get pregnant after that. Our plan to start our family didn’t work out the way we thought it would.
We began infertility treatments which consumed our time, resources, and patience. My wife went through several surgeries and treatments.
During all of this, we talked a lot about infertility and why it wasn’t working. It was painful to go through this and still not be able to conceive.
Adoption was something we had discussed all along the way. There came a point where we just wanted to be parents. We didn’t care how it happened, we were tired of waiting. With adoption we knew it would take some time but in the end there would be a baby for us.
Some adoption professionals recommend that you work through your infertility completely until there are no more medical options left. Others suggest counseling to help you understand the direction you should go.
In our journey to parenthood we decided to continue infertility treatments and pursue adoption at the same time.
So we chose an adoption professional that allowed this. We knew that we would adopt even if we got pregnant.
It was stressful at times, yet it was the right choice for us. After we adopted our daughter, we decided to postpone our infertility treatments to just enjoy finally being a family.
Parenthood had not come easy for us, but God knew what he was doing – even if we didn’t.
Check out our most recent adoption journey.
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