Adoption is how you came to be a family- not a parenting style. Be the parent you are meant to be- the parent your child needs you to be, today. — Author, Madeleine Melcher
As a parent through infant adoption, the title of this book really struck me. So, naturally I needed to read it and write up a review for you.
Adoptee, author, speaker, blogger and mommy, Madeleine Melcher’s brand new book “Dear Adoptive Parents: Things You Need to Know Right Now – from an Adoptee” is a honest message, that is truly written from the heart. You may surprised by what you read.
She has a very unique perspective of being adopted AND being a mom of children that her and her husband have adopted. She writes about the realities of adoption, what it means to have been adopted, and what it means to parent children that you’ve adopted.
Madeleine is so refreshing in her words that tell the story of how positive adoption can be.
The book is so easy to read – not just because she writes in a conversational way – but it is broken down into short letters. Every chapter begins with “Dear Parents…” because she is writing directly to parents who have adopted.
She even writes directly to those who have yet to adopt. The words of wisdom she shares are invaluable because it offers parents (and parents-to-be) the support, inspiration, and encouragement they need to be the best parents to their children.
Madeleine shares so much of her story – which is compelling and touches your heart.
My favorite chapters include:
- What REAL (good) Parents Do
- Don’t Assume We Are All Wounded
- No One – No Voice is More Important Than This One
- Adoption Days
This book talks about what parents need to do TODAY. It talks about what their children need. As Madeleine says in the book – the most important voice that parents need to pay attention to is the voice of their child.
One more really cool thing I love about this book is at the very end, where she encourages you to write your own letters. She says “you could write letters to yourself, encouraging the parent you hope to be, or to your child about the joys of being their parent.” Awesome, and a great idea.
I highly recommend this book to anyone who has yet to adopt, or is thinking about adopting, or is already parenting a child by adoption. You can pick it up on Amazon right here: Dear Adoptive Parents: Things You Need to Know Right Now – from an Adoptee by Madeleine Melcher.
Here are more books written by Madeleine Melcher:
- How to Create a Successful Adoption Portfolio: Easy Steps to Help You Produce the Best Adoption Profile and Prospective Birthparent Letter
- Encouragement for the Adoption and Parenting Journey: 52 Devotions and a Journal co-authored by Rachel Garlinghouse
If you like how Madeleine writes, then you’ll LOVE listening to her. She’s been a guest on the Infant Adoption Guide Podcast! Check it out…
- How to create a successful adoption profile with Madeleine Melcher
- Encouragement for the Adoption & Parenting Journey – with Rachel Garlinghouse and Madeleine Melcher